Too many people are looking for the right person,
instead of being the right person.

Got this off Eunice’s site, but I recall it was on Ben’s site before too. I agree with this, but only to a certain point.

Like my last post on perfection. You try to hard to be “perfect” in everything you do, that you don’t settle for less than “perfect” in someone else.

So then what’s being the “right” person? Being the best most perfect person you can be, or learning to accept yourself and be happy with yourself.

After all, you can’t be happy with someone until you are happy with yourself. You can’t make someone happy until you are happy.

Then I am reminded by Karen’s quote on her blog.

To get a good catch,
You first have to be one.

What is being a good catch? What is a good catch? I see some of my female friends in their quest to pursue “the” most perfect mate and I realize it is almost impossible to live by their standards. They are amazing girls mind you. They strive hard to be amazing people in life and, as I mentioned above, to try that hard to be the best of whatever they need in their lives, they also look for someone that amazing. They probably deserve what they look for … if they can find it. ¹

In the end, I think being the “right person”, is being the person who can accept that you’re less than perfect, they’re less than perfect, and when it comes down to the cold winter nights, will be content just spending time with a cup of marshmellows, melting in hot chocolate, in front of the fireplace, just in your arms and loving the moment.

As a photographer, I see it as the depth of field becoming really shallow, focusing on just the connection between the two people, and vignetting along the frame. :)

¹ A friend then messaged me about how he “now understood why some girls were snobs”. That was was not what I meant. I think these girls are good girls. Sometimes though, love is not about looking for the best. :)